It’s easy to let bad manners take over when in the comfort of our home, but those who share the roof are the very ones we need to be the nicest to. Be the person you need to be with these tips
Greet your family
Greeting family members in the mornings and evenings and saying good night may be one of the simplest things to overlook in the home. It is very important to say these at all times as a sign of respect, warmth and affection.
Make pleasant conversation
Our angry words can grate on other people’s nerves and vice versa. It might take practice and several attempts, but start now to consciously speak nicely to those who live with you. In the process, be friendly because a warm smile is one of the best icebreakers you can possibly offer. Being friendly is much more impressive than starting a conversation about yourself or showing off a quick wit. Opening with a few kind words can be much safer than trying to make the other person laugh because humour is so subjective.
Knock on closed doors
If a door is closed in your home, do not barge into the room because the person behind the door is a relative. Respect that the closed door symbolises privacy. Before entering, gently knock and await permission to enter the room.
Ask before you borrow things
Do not assume that because the object belongs to a family member, it is okay to use it without permission. Ask to use things that are not yours and if you are denied permission to use the object, respect the owner’s wish.
Avoid going through others’ things
Never go through someone’s private possessions; this includes mail and diaries or journals. A person keeps things private for a reason and looking through them is not only a display of poor manners, it betrays the owners’ trust.
Apologise when you make mistakes
According to www. thespruce.com, when you make a mistake, don’t let too much time go by before apologising to your loved ones at home. Afterwards, make a concerted effort to be nice and do not repeat what you apologised for.
Acts of kindness
We often hear about people performing random acts of kindness. It’s generally something people do for strangers, which is nice, but why not be kind to the people you’re closest to? If you do those very same things at home, your life will be much more pleasant, and you might find that these simple deeds create a domino effect, with others wanting to return the kindness.
Practice what you preach
Parents can bark orders all day long, but the children rarely hear what is being said if the parents’ actions are in direct opposition to the commands. When we tell our kids to be polite, say please and thank you, and take our turn in line, yet we forget to perform those acts at home, the children get a mixed signal that is likely to send them towards a state of misbehaviour. If you constantly chatter on your cell phone, they might not pay much attention to you when you tell them to put theirs down during a meal. Don’t expect anything from your children that you don’t do when it’s just you and them.
If you find a roommate who shares your values and you can get along with, do everything in your power to be polite to that person. You don’t want to risk losing this important relationship. For instance, if you know your roommate needs a special food for a diet or health issue, never take the last one in the package. Replace anything that isn’t something you’ve agreed to share. Also, be respectful of common space by keeping it neat and clean. Never leave a sink full of dirty dishes and expect your roommate to wash them.
Get rid of the “me” attitude
The family is a close-knit unit and it is not just about “you” the individual. Learn to put others before yourself. Consider this, “How would I treat this person if they didn’t have long to live?
Eat meals together
Don’t allow family dining to become a lost art. You will not only lose an opportunity to connect and share the highlights of your day, but the dinner table is a place where manners and dining etiquette is taught.
Keep family affairs private
Family members share a lot of intimate details within the household that should not be shared publicly. Keep any private discussions such as parents speaking about money or siblings sharing who they have crush on at home and do not discuss them publicly.
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