Resolutions are no longer in vogue, and so are berets, bandannas and clogs, yet people keep trying to bring them back. Yuck! The thing about all the ‘New Year, New Me’ mantra is that it is a big fraud – literally fighting for first position of scam business alongside MMM.
It’s a new year quite alright, but you’re still Nimide who eats Amala and Ewedu every Monday, complete with four pieces of assorted meat, while your colleagues look on in awe.
The only thing that changes are the things you change.
As in my usual fashion of repeating movies, I was watching The Next Three Days (a movie by Paul Haggis), for the third time, and a few sentences uttered by John Brennan (Russell Crowe) to a crowded class of middle aged students jumped right at me-
You know, we spend a lot of time trying to organize the world. We build clocks and calendars and we try to predict the weather. But what part of our life is truly under our control? What if we choose to exist purely in a reality of our own making? Does that render us insane? And if it does, isn’t that better than a life of despair?
The idea of a reality of my own making is attractive to me for several reasons, one of which is, I am severely tired of living a life that is conditioned on what same life offers to me. I want to live on my terms. Imagine the endless possibilities!
How do you do that? It is certainly not by making resolutions that expire every year. It is by a conscious determination and resilience that is renewed every day and is evident in the strategic and purposeful decisions/actions you take guaranteed to lead you into a reality of your own making.
It is by deciding, this minute, that the buck stops here, and you want your life to take on an upward trajectile motion to greatness. It is in the daily actualizing of your goals –Smart Goals that lead up to fulfillment of larger goals and then eventually give you the big picture.
What are Smart Goals? Last year, during our yearly goal setting and planning in view of the incoming year, I came up with a list of goals for my unit which my CEO promptly told me were not smart. He then proceeded to properly educate me on the concept of smart goals.
Basically, S.M.A.R.T Goals are goals that are-
- Specific – target a specific area for improvement.
- Measurable – quantify or at least suggest an indicator of progress.
- Attainable– how will you go about it?
- Realistic – state what results can realistically be achieved, given available resources.
- Time-related – specify when the result(s) can be achieved.
So, this year, rather than coming up with a bogus list of desires aka resolutions. Come up with smart goals.
If, like me, kissing Benedict Cumberbatch on Valentine’s Day is one of your goals, break it down rather than just thinking words on paper will matter.
- Specific – I want to kiss Benedict Cumberbatch.
- Measurable – This goal will be considered successful if we have a 3 minutes french kiss with one or two extra things for effort.
- Attainable– Where does Benedict live? Can I travel there?
- Realistic – How does Benedict being married and happy with his family factor into me achieving this goal? Will he want to kiss me? Basically, is he a honorary Yoruba Demon?
- Time-related – I want to kiss him on the 14th of February.
You see, it is really not that hard. Come up with yours and stick to plan!